Hey Queen,
This is for when life starts to feel a little monotonous and robotic, and you want to awaken and excite the soul again. Enjoy.
My phone pinged as my crush’s name appeared on the dropdown bar.
The blue blurb read, “What are you up to?”
I didn’t hesitate, even though it probably should have occurred to me that what I was about to say could easily be weaponized by an insecure, dominance-driven twenty-one-year-old bartender.
“Watching poetry slams on YouTube,” I replied.
Immediately: “LOL are you joking, Kari? That’s so lame.”
I stared at the message, my brows furrowed and my head cocked to the side in confusion. It took a minute to hurt my feelings, because I was too busy being puzzled by the idea that someone thought poetry was lame… what?
To me, poetry was a craft to be admired and inspired by. For years, I had gazed at the creators with reverence — they were the greats. They were the brave ones, with both wisdom and fire exploding out of their souls and illuminating this dark and muddy world.
It was my fantasy to be one of them.
But I had never spoken any of this out loud or even acknowledged it to myself, so I had no conscious awareness that I was drawn to this craft like a magnet. Even if I had, I wouldn’t have been able to fathom — let alone predict — how something as simple and small as poetry would transform my entire life.
I never could have seen what was coming next.
At age nineteen, Loser Dan’s comment was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I had always been in love with the art of words somewhere deep inside, but throughout adolescence, I experienced a series of moments that taught me that the art of words often made others uncomfortable — which made me believe that expressing myself this way was weird. That I was weird.
I abandoned this passion for years, allowing only small spurts of my gift and passion for writing to be released in the form of social media captions. But I tried to keep them as watered down as I could. I tried to conceal my true self so that no one could see my weird.
One day, during my creativity research era, I started reading the book The Artist’s Way. One of the tools the author teaches is to write daily “morning pages” — a brain dump of whatever is floating through your mind. I started doing this and quickly noticed that my words always became swift and beautiful by the third or fourth paragraph.
I started rearranging the paragraphs and stopped watering down my phrases. All of a sudden — boom. It was poetry.
I knew not a single rule or term of jargon in the world of poetry, but I knew I was creating art. And it felt amazing.
In reading my own words, it was like I had lowered a well down into the depths of my soul and retrieved the truth of what was happening in my inner world. I could clearly see what I was struggling with and how I was being invited to change and grow.
Healing went from being a project to an organic unfolding.
Before long, I decided to start reading poetry to the camera and sharing it on TikTok. It felt vulnerable yet liberating, and the affirmations started rolling in. My words resonated, and they became healing for others, too. A whole bunch of strangers — including myself — finally felt seen, simply because I had the courage to share.
This gave me the courage to share at open mics. Also vulnerable yet liberating. My confidence was building layer by layer, growing sturdy and unwavering. I stopped feeling unsettled walking into a room of strangers or trying something new. I stopped stumbling over my words and overthinking simple questions. I moved with newfound power and self-trust because I truly understood myself in every moment, and I had my own back. No matter what.
A couple months later, I received a divine invitation to write a book — something I had only imagined doing down the road, around age fifty. If I had received that invitation six months earlier, I wouldn’t have even recognized it. But at this point, I actually recognized my gifts and trusted myself to use them in a professional manner.
So I said yes.
In writing my book Fun Because, The Fun Methodology strengthened and solidified. Once it was published, the creativity evolved into the inspiration to create a space where women could live it out together in real time — The Fun Side Club.
This was immediately the most successful and supported offer I’d ever created (in eight years of business).
My business and impact have grown in ways I never could have predicted, especially at age twenty-eight, all because I finally pursued the hobby I was drawn to.
This is the wondrous magic of creativity. There is always a ripple effect on the other side, but there is absolutely no way to predict what it will look like — because the other side exists in the sparkly, elusive world of divinity.
The unlimited source and power of creativity is not science; it is art.
It exists on God’s side of the universe — we are immersed in it at all times, but our human brains will never fully understand it.
When we express ourselves creatively, we heal parts of ourselves we didn’t realize needed healing and release things we didn’t know we were carrying. When we let the ideas, inspiration, and gifts run through us like a river (hence the term creative flow), we connect directly with divine power and open the gateway to infinite possibility and opportunity.
This is why creativity is the final tier of The Fun Pyramid — because this is where your entire reality can change overnight.
So how do we tap into and utilize this power?
And how can those who believe they “aren’t the creative type” do the same?
And how do we make time for something so seemingly unproductive?
It’s actually quite simple. Let’s dive in.
Step One: Identify your CREATIVE FANTASY.
What the heck is a creative fantasy? Is it sexual? It sounds sexual. Yes, it sure can be. It can be whatever you want.
A creative fantasy is any form of self-expression you’ve dreamed about doing — even if it was just a passing thought.
Examples:
🎨 Painting naked on a patio overlooking the ocean
🌱 Tending to a vibrant garden
💃 Being a Broadway dancer
🎤 Singing in a rock band
📝 Writing fiction
👠 Runway modeling
For me, poetry was the fantasy.
Step Two: Reflect on what it is about this form of expression that draws you in. What part of you is asking to be expressed?
With poetry, I’m fascinated by how we use letters arranged in words arranged in sentences to evoke feelings, memories, and insight. To connect soul to soul through words on a page is pure magic to me. Writing has always helped me understand and validate myself, which mattered deeply because I felt perpetually misunderstood growing up. The part of me that wanted to be expressed through poetry was the same part that so desperately wanted to feel understood.
Maybe for you, it’s dancing. Maybe dancing is how you feel your emotions in your body and let them course through your veins instead of staying clogged in your heart. Maybe you were never allowed space to feel all your feelings, and that part of you is asking to be expressed.
Whatever it is, it is not frivolous or pointless. There is a divine reason you feel drawn to it, and it is absolutely worth pursuing — because there is a ripple effect waiting for you. One that will change your life.
Step Three: Take one step toward your creative fantasy.
Remember: the objective isn’t to become a pop star, runway model, or legendary poet. The objective is to detach from the outcome, enjoy the process, and let creativity take you on a magic carpet ride. You’re not in control here. Enjoy that.
Maybe taking one step means singing passionately instead of under your breath.
Maybe it’s busting out some moves when no one’s home.
Maybe it’s writing a short story in your journal and leaving it at that.
Maybe it’s wandering through Hobby Lobby and letting yourself be drawn to something, no questions asked.
Whatever it is — do it. Do it ASAP, and don’t stop doing it until you have a whole ripple effect to trace back. And then still, keep doing it.
Step Four: Think smaller — how can you casually weave this into your daily life?
I definitely recommend carving out a block of time in your schedule to engage with your creativity — this is where the magic happens. But we also need to be realistic. Stuff comes up, and you’ll probably go longer than planned between creative sessions. So have a plan B that requires less effort. Magic happens in small, consistent moments too.
Voila. That’s how you tap into and utilize the unlimited, divine power of creativity. Enjoy.
Pro Tips:
- Stop giving a shit whether or not you’re “good” at it. That’s not the point. Be bad — and enjoy being bad, especially in the beginning. You’re free here. Don’t put unnecessary restrictions on yourself.
- If you’ve detached from the outcome and you’re still not enjoying it, don’t force it. The point is to do something you look forward to, not create another area of life you’re “shoulding” yourself.
- Don’t look to the experts. Let yourself learn on the fly in your own way. You don’t need knowledge or credentials to try something you’re not even trying to be good at. You don’t need Bob Ross videos to start painting. You don’t need writing lessons to write poetry. You don’t need vocal training to sing. If you want that, go for it — but don’t do it because you think you have to.
Ready?
It’s time to live out your fantasy, babe. If you found this helpful, you’ll have a hay day with my new bestselling book, Fun Because. She can be found on Amazon.
I’m cheering you on and would love to hear your story – Share your creative fantasy with me via email: funsquad@karithefuncoach.com Or tag me @karithefuncoach when you post about it online.
ENJOY!
Xox, Kari